Husband take I always _ fall in love clinic compared with his former wife

Husband take I always _ fall in love clinic compared with his former wife

I married this year, now already pregnant for nearly 5 months. The husband is from this city, I am a not native. The husband had once had wedding history of 1 and a half years. While divorcing, the former wife has asked for 100,000 yuan from him.
I do not mind the husband is a second hand man. Long for
While loving, the husband was very kind to me. I quited job behind being pregnant, move to mother-in-law's family. The husband goes to work and costs the drive of one and a half hours every day, but he never calls hard, come off duty and just come back to accompany me.
But whom I stand most, husband compare with former wife me consciously or unconsciously always. Sometimes, he thinks I do well, will say: " much better than small pellet " ; When I am wilful, he says: "With the little red wilfulness equally. " For this reason, it is too good many times that he and I are noisy. I am very uncomfortable, but he blames me to be suspicious, in fact, I know what's what, the annual pay of the husband is more than 60,000 yuan, he only keeps money and December bonus of half a year for me, it is about 20,000 yuans to amount to. Perhaps this is that former wife leaves him the shade while divorcing, the husband will have a card up one's sleeve to me
After our each quarrel, I can't help complaining: "Have divorced, it is different with not getting married. " Often make the husband very angry.
Noisy will hurt one's feelings much, this marriage has just begun. The husband has not realized he likes taking how former wife hurts one's feeling compared with me, I am at one's wit's end, the heart is in a mess. Do not really know what is to be done.
Reply:
It is a major issue in life to get married, nobody can forget; The divorce is not only major issue in life, but also a great wound, furthermore make people difficult to forget.
Get married with a person with wedding history, just as buy one get one free, while getting this person, also must receive his wound memory, the shade not getting rid of a section of life.
Primary criteria of the marriage two times are, accept his " wound memory " unconditionally ," look but see not " to it .
Have it to the couple very affectionate for many years. But the wife has a question to hide on the heart deeply. At last one day, she asked the husband: "This very big birthmark on my left arm, why have you never mentioned? " The husband says: "Right? I pay no attention to. " This woman feels very happy immediately, because the person together from morning to night with her, to hers " The shortcoming " Turn a blind eye.
Perhaps, you will say, nobody would like to jab others' scar voluntarily, because is too angry at the time of the quarrel, do not select speeches on the mouth.
In fact, people are all because one's own heart is uneasy, lend to others and make agony to relieve one's own pain of injury false. Anyone's heart has various conflicts, contradictions and worried, need the space released. But just release the pressure in a kind of particular relation, it is long, will make this kind of relation destroyed because of being defeated by heavy load.
Methods to deal with psychological pressure had better be used in turn by many kinds of release ways: Such as chat with friend, keep a diary, fitness, listen to the music, watch performance, surf the Net and pour water, travel, make a scene in the place without people You there is no harm in trying it.


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