Old man the emotion is still the first demand

Old man, the emotion is still the first demand
At present, there are 120 million old persons in our country, among them the elderly berefted of one's spouse above 60 years old are 45 million, and this figure stresses with the senilization question of our country that is increasing constantly day by day. For various reasons, the emotion life of the elderly is less than satisfactory, avoid family's conflict artificially in some old age, bear one's own emotion patiently, live a lonely life alone, although descendants' full hall, but the evening scene is dreary. Let the elderly spend happy old age, should not merely make them easy to put on to eat, should also make them getting happy, among them the old man's emotion world can't ignore. It is a doctor of medicine that the old man has the right to pursue life Ms. Wang of the happiness. Strive to be strong to seek to do others down, no thing can always make her awkward in her personality. Recently, but a thing that the family has happened has let her worry about Mo Zhan: Her 60 -year-old father wants to divorce her mother. She says: The intersection of personality and Tai Wo of parents, stumble, all one's life, never expect getting old to make a noise, get up, divorce. Her father is a president of a university, mother is the editor of the publishing house. Father gentle, mother fiery and forthright, at home, anything mother have the final say. At the beginning, two people return the heated dispute and vie with each other to see who is the better, slowly, two people are by " hot and noisy " Turn into " cold war " ,Become cold and detached by the cold war. At that time, Ms. Wang and her younger sisters were all small, perhaps it was for child's sake, her parents have not said good-bye. Later on her father immerses oneself in engaging in scholarship, publish several monographs in succession, act as a headmaster. This, during that time, Ms. Wang know parents of her live together peacefully on the surface, until one's own duty maintain one gentle disposition and peaceful of family to the limit, but two people are that in a disagreeable conversation one word more is too many. In Ms. Wang's memory, few whole family are in the together happy and harmonious scene. Her father is always very busy, seldom seldom speak even at home at home. At the beginning of this year, her father left one's post. It is at this time, her father proposes divorcing her mother. He says: My lifetime, is a scene before the people, sad after people. Children have all grown up now, it is unnecessary we worried about. Feel greatly relieved when no longer in office, needn't afraid again either others gesticulate and gossip. I want to look for one's own happiness. Ms. Wang says, originally I disagree with they say good-bye, though they do not help each other when both are in humble circumstances, but gathered and burnt for decades after all. But in one afternoon not long ago, I had a thing to go home, found father rolled up and closed eyes in the sofa alone, two pieces of subtle tear stains are indistinct on the face, I found father very lonely and very pitiful suddenly. From the account, parents divide the bed and occupy, the marriage performs practically no function. Now, he is old, has not worked, children fly far and high, spouse's shape and stranger. Dreary evening scene, the mental state of chilly fear, make people feel sad. Father ought to have a happy old age, father should look for a spouse to begin the new life again. But I am very contradictory, leave my mother, will he really find the happiness? There is no my mother, status and achievement that he have today? What will my mother do? If parents remarry, I want to face two families made up newly, what place this relation comes? I am very in pain. Have combining likewise painful with Ms. Wang not only alone she. The expert thinks, the elderly have the tendency to rise to divorce in recent years. Busy with work and undertaking in the past, had no time to take emotional life into account, desalinized and concealed the contradiction in life. After retiring, in the face of the whole families, spouses and children, the cacophony in life is exposed, become unable to excuse me and can't even stand with some questions and contradictions of the spouse's, have to say good-bye finally. So, the old man divorces the phenomenon merits attention and pays attention to. Should respect and live the middle age of making the old gentleman of Beijing Haidian District and bereft of one's spouse in emotion of the elderly, put up with hardships, raise adult three children alone, send foreign life to them. After the last granddaughter leaves he for foreign countries too, let to always face the hollow house, do not think even a person speaking has, very lonely. Later, he got to know a woman cadre divorcing through the place of matchmakers. Through keeping in touch, two people get along well very much, let to remarry in old decision. Think children, abroad, thought must open, bear, think, three seat behind the letter woman originally, all is urgent to fly back to Beijing, demands to let to always make testaments, the houses of property and old man behind should be all left to them, that woman cadre can't have finger in. Extremely sad after letting to always hear. This newspaper has reported an old man remarrying publishes in the newspaper to want and one's own daughter breaks off the relations of mother and daughter. Mother brings her up alone, try to transfer her registered permanent residence from other places to Beijing in and the idea. Mother is after marriage, the daughter has not not only gone to visit mother for many years, has returned the property that the idea utilized various means to grab mother, depend on old man, speak insolently even, make the intersection of old man and wounded heart completely. As the saying goes " whether juvenile couple come on companion always " . Young people pursue the love, the elderly are the same too. The old man berefting of one's spouse or divorcing needs consolation of emotion even more, need to take good care of comfort because of loneliness. The elderly's need love is not any scandal. Children do not respect the emotion of the elderly, disagree the old man remarries, only some reasons, first, in idea, some children think parents remarry and lose face; Second, economical, afraid parents have influenced one's own right of inheritance after marriage; Third, the one that support on the relation, think parents have increased burden for oneself after marriage. Then, some children do not respect parents' emotion choice, remarry and flagrantly interfere the old man, even maltreat the old man, it is painful to cause to old man all the life. So, protect the old man's rights and interests, it is everybody's responsibility, should respect their emotional choice. In order to protect the freedom of marriage of the elderly,>Remarry old person breakthrough the issue is listed in it. First, stipulate children should respect parents' marriage right, can't interfere parents' remarrying and life after marriage, propose clearly it is the illegal activities that children interfere parents and remarry; Second, stipulate children's duty of maintenance to parents, does not stop because parents' marriage relation is changed, not only forbid children in order to stop supporting the method to coerce also proposed the principle that the elderly are supported by one's own children after marriage. Love let the elderly it radiates the vigour of youth to be already the intersection of pensioner and old Mr. and the intersection of Ms. and 2 people Ma Wang after marriage, life harmonious, spirit joyful, people to familiar with them say they comparing with the time of remarrying like young 10 years. Ms. Ma says, she is very happy after marriage, feel that enjoys the honeymoon in picture everyday. Others say " have, accompany hard to get along with and loud very, accompany advantages to be large to some extent very " ,I have felt this profoundly Click. First, lightened the burden of the children of both sides, two people support each other, look after each other, the children of both sides needn't divert one's attention to keep thinking about. Another
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