The old man says that loves me But unwilling to draw 10 million betrothal gifts _'s love clinics

The old man says that loves me But unwilling to draw 10 million betrothal gifts _'s love clinics

It has already formed for more than one month in my mind that this heart formed, can't untie really, make me very painful, begin the work now, but this is being always assigned my heart, make me difficult and put into the new job, so, I have to ask you to help, help me to untie this
One is formed. The thing is such:
He, long the intersection of I and 27 year old, than the intersection of father and large several month even, divorce, have pieces of son, but I incurable to fall in love with him five years ago, then help each other when both are in humble circumstances, never leave each other, having lived happy cozy and happy life, the fuel,rice,oil and salt and basic daily necessities, but always enjoy, has forgotten the disparity of age gradually, has forgotten his past, live to sweet. But I have not been telling my parents all the time, are afraid they can not accept. But I know face them sooner or later.
Last beginning of month, I told parents our thing, they were angry and incomparable shocked while, shock the boyfriend's age and wedding history, angry I just tell them the fact till now, parents think me thoughtless, does not consider their feeling, my father says yet that much satirizes my words, the merciless opposition has given me a head-on blow accurately like bolt from the blue. It's almost one month, we the intersection of house and three people want, dispute this, I and the intersection of father and noisy many times every day, it is ill that the whole family tosses about out for this. See parents worry the wan and sallow face, my really kindhearted pain for me. Because I understand parents' feeling deeply, they think about my future, for the realistic angle, they are afraid he goes through more, the subtlety is deep, will injure me, he large much than me in age, think, have anything now, but after the 20 year past 10, he can like parents, becoming the Die old man of octogenarians, at that time, I wanted to bear the pressure of looking after 3 old men alone, wait for me to be old a little more, he is older, when I need people to look after, perhaps he can do nothing. In addition, say one sentence of more realistic ones, he has a son, though does not live with him, but they are blood father and son in law, if he will have a unexcepted misfortune afterwards, there is very complicated question of distribution of assets, he is sure to distribute all property into his son's name, including his house property, but I, it is one that pays all youth, the bamboo basket fetches water in the end, perhaps nothing can be got, they worry in my future very much, are afraid it is hurt and wronged that I will receive in the future. But think of loving my happy life of boyfriend and us, I can't bear to give up again.
Boyfriend though very fine to me, kind the intersection of care and I, people do not have perfect person, a successful man, is always male chauvinism at heart, he seems to have a speciality in this respect even more than other men. He puts undertaking first, he thinks the money made to spend on developing on the undertaking, the quality of the life is almost all right, this does not matter, the main one is very him oneself, do everything and stand on his own position, he tells me, it is that men are superior to women in the family, the woman will submit to the man soon, is the man's accessory, so I think frequently that suffocate and crook very much by oneself. And I whether one accept good girl that educate, home environment is very fine, I have one's own judgment and the attitude lives, I am not willing to receive others' domination, so I will dispute with him in this respect frequently, a pin against an awl, the noisy one is awfully busy, quarrel and always injure the body, but his so-called man's self-respect always gets the upper hand, combine with the self- and very unfriendly and unreasonable attitude on his personality, each time, have not almost made a concession, the contradiction is dissolved slowly.
Get back to parents at this, father puts forward a requirement to him, say so long as he agrees to this requirement, it is together to agree with us. Require: Want him to transfer his house property to my name, make betrothal gifts for parents 10 million. The requirement jump under the I, think parents spend 10 million I give, sell really, but the quiet lower heart thinks, only there are two purposes that parents say so: First, frighten him away directly, the one in a disguised form tells him to give up the idea; Second, take advantage of this reason and test him, see whether he can can handle this well, see whether he is wholehearted to me.
When I told him this requirement of parents', he said on anger at that time that can't understand me for my family's method, think I have agreed to parents' view, our family are the money which is washing him and went to house, say everything and will not speak to me again. I tell him this is that parents are testing him, he can go to communicate with my parents, move them with the true feelings, it is not for money and house at all. But no matter how I explain, he is the stubborn thinking self-respect and emotion that this injures him, does not respect he and our emotion, is shameful, the consideration from the view of my family and me not personal. Parents are all happy for me, in fact they have said too, so long as this man is wholehearted kind to me, the wedding history of age is not important. But key he shrink back time, he speak talk with my parents while being impossible, because he says my parents have injured the self-esteem of his man, it is impervious to reason. Then, two weeks, have not got in touch with me.
This let the intersection of I and regret very, for be able to be with him, parents and I dispute, theory, even family that toss about year after year too good, can he one succeed with parents if communicating really then only, but he has given up, has left me alone.
He so getting selfish, he wholehearted to me on earth, I even 10 million is not worth in the mind of he, is not even a house worth, I am nothing on earth in his heart, what a status is it on earth? Myself had difficulty in conducting within and without in ones that got finally, it is no longer that well-behaved woman originally in parents' eyes, I have become a greedy for money material woman in his eyes
The intersection of I and now fine contradiction, he such people deserve my loving, a lot of people advise me to leave him, because self- he very much, has not put my family and me in the eyes at all, but, the keeping and is accompanied of five years, what forgetting easily is it? This period of time not getting in touch with him, I have been woken up in the miss to him by the regret every day, ache to and cry, miss into disease, various diseases are burdened with recently, good agony.
I really want to free from such passive state out quickly, put into new working new life, no longer miss him, that parents disagree, does not respect family and me, selfish self- male chauvinism, though the man who may give me very good material to enjoy.
Would you please tell me, how should I make, could go out of the haze as soon as possible, he, is worth my continuing the love? Please give me an answer. Thank you. Wait for your reply.
Rifle Mr. answers questions for a long time:
In fact everybody has one's own understanding ability, he can't face your parents, it is enough to prove he can't give you a stable marriage, he is too successful to certainly lack the women companion at one's side, say big man man of doctrine and then, want, let him bow one's head to superior might to you, succeed in, divorce man's common fault too, he want, live in you but in the marriage of life, so to it leaves to be among the reason too he.
In five years, you received anything, it is his so-called material that is enjoyed, or the emotion is enjoyed, the most important beginning of all one's life that what you paid is not only one's own youth, also the woman, if he does not even have to respect your consciousness, needn't waste one's own emotion and life experience.
The emotion that the ones that don't talk like a Dutch uncle please, will let your emotion be more petty and lower only so, also proved you are a material woman seeking pleasure. If would not know how to cherish the meaning of this word through water through the mountain in loved.
Finally, whom 10 million betrothal gifts want to let, see one's own true appearance each other, you deny one's own material desire even more, but can't deny oneself.


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