Professional women " Close the door " With " change the shelf " -Job market's constant change

Professional women " Close the door " With " change the shelf " -Job market's constant change
Professional women should learn to close working pressure outside the door, does not allow working pressure to " pollute " Quiet home. The work is no doubt important, but can't regard sacrificing the family life as the cost, learn to " close the door " With " change the shelf " ,Seek the equilibrium when and work in the family, can have happy and intact life.The scene 1: Wang Fang brings weariness of a face, comes into the door while answering the job telephone, she is busy the content of recording telephone, can not attend to and greet with the husband. After an hour, just hang up, she says to the husband at once: "I am tired to death quickly, let's get a takeaway. " "Well, anyway not eat for one day and two days. " The husband has promised her request reluctantly.The scene 2: Will it be birthday such as husband, small to invite a restaurant have a meal fortunately actually while being refined. But before come off duty when arrange promptly leader one item job,after waiting for to finish, have already missed designated time, has gone out and happened to block up again. Wait for her to the restaurant, just find that forgets to buy the birthday gift. She just wanted to say " I am sorry " ,But the husband stands up angrily, leave in a huff.The scene 3: It is small and beautiful and is criticized by the boss for no reason, get angry to the husband once going home: "Why do you know that watch TV? What time, why not begin to cook? " "Don't be angry, the meal has been finished early, wait for you. " The husband makes great efforts to restrain oneself, avoid quarrelling.The scene 4: It was just married for one year that it is small and beautiful, because is often on business, the marriage had already faced the crisis. On eve on business recently, his husband begins to complain: "You are 10 times on business this year, quick ' recombinated ' of family of ours. "The work can bring the fulfillment to somebody, but the fulfillment in the family life is likewise indispensable, it makes our life more harmonious, more balanced. The more intimate the relation with husband is, the more steady marriage life is, there is sense of safety. The psychological expert proposes 8 suggestions for this, so long as you sit in the right seat, can find " gold key " of solving work and family's contradiction .Propose 1: Learn in various are mixed confusingly " Close the door " . Sticking to " The emotion " Fully enjoy the emotion in the room of the label, is " working " sticking to The room of the label fully represents the ability to work, " lobby " is being stuck The room of the label is settled down to have a rest. However, enjoy every quarter the prerequisite of pure life is, turn off other door. That is to say, coming into the emotion room will shut the door of work soon, turn off the gate of the lobby while beginning to work.Propose 2: According to different situations, go on with the highway section" Change the shelf " , " moderation " Or " accelerate " . If in all desperation moves ahead fast, want the big problem to happen finally, " road surface " after all The situation changes all the time. Before adjustment, will define first you are working for life, or live for working? Hope to give consideration to life and work, learn the equilibrium between the two? So long as define after these two questions, we should adjust to changed conditions, " change the shelf " in right time ," raise speed " in right time .Propose 3: Create the little environment. During that period of time that has just got home, can regulate the mental state by such several kinds method, such as changing a loosely comfortable relaxed mood of clothes, use the music and change of the light to comb the mood. In addition, can also pass and broadcast the cheerful, soft or calm music, or regulate color and luminance of the light to relax the atmosphere. Light a piece of wax, can build the happy and auspicious atmosphere out too, conciliate mood, let the agitated mood quiet down.Propose 4: Try self-regulation. Visual self-regulation law: Imagine oneself like pouring the rubbish generally, abandon and hob the force; Imagine oneself accompanying the warm wind, stands by the cliff, the wind that blew suddenly in a period of time blows all troubles and pressures scatteredly, at this moment, the brain resumes in the twinkling of an eye quietly and freshly. The positive vision is imagined: Imagine oneself being shrouded in the flashing white light from head to foot, and energy that it is warm that this stretch of white light can be given to you, can also let you deal with all problems doing in an expert way. White light, like one layer durable boot outside the body, extremely awkward situation and let the intersection of you and unhappy criticism rebound, go out, make it contact you again.Propose 5: Express the feeling missed voluntarily. The professional women often on business want to know, the special working way has very great influence on integrality of the family, so as long as time allows, should listen to family pouring out voluntarily, and communicate with husband and child actively, dispel family's worry. After reaching the destination each time, contact as soon as possible, tell family you miss them very much.Propose 6: The society has a rest. Remind oneself whether it is very easy for work not to approach other respect in the life stealthily when want, such uneven sense will let your pressure be increased, drained. If you always take the work to home, you need to cultivate the ability to divide various things, and form the habit of rational rest. Can't ignore family's feeling and demand.Propose 7: Don't conceal the family problem with work. Once it is contradictory to appear, should say clearly, if always continue working at home candidly early to family, can't assign, does not solve the problem actively, probably bury " time bomb " for the marriage .Propose 8: Often encourage oneself with the positive words. For example: "I am a all-round developing person, I need a balanced and intact life, the family life is my happy source, the achievement at work lets me feel excited fully " . " Now, every aspect of social life is unstable, in front of many kinds of pressure, we must keep the elasticity, regulate with different role and different rhythm.
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