How is it just have the career girl " The relations with people " Psychology of job market of

How is it just have the career girl " The relations with people " Psychology of job market of
In the dormitory of a solar month of 30 days. She has no friend. The reason why everybody does not like her is: She makes the door while coming off duty and getting back to the dormitory at midnight " The table tennis " Loud, influence others to have a rest seriously; She likes turning over and getting others' thing, it is easy to steal a glance at others' letter; She can not be in charge of one's own mouth, often tells tales before people; She harangues in the dormitory with the boyfriend in the dead of night, makes it all very inconvenient for room-mates to change one's clothes and go to bed; As for the rubbish of leftovers, count her to throw away most, but she was always unwilling to start to clear up ......In actual life, the person not bad of the heart with bad interpersonal relationships comes up to a large number like a solar month of 30 days.The society is a big colony, in this big colony, the individual does not exist isolatedly, but associate through certain way and others. Human communication the basic function lies in transmitting messaging, exchanging the emotion most, and form more harmonious social relationships gradually. As for individual, the contacts, communication of personality are that the personality develop ripe important route and means. It means ripely the individual forms the personality which meets this society, cultural environment in the particular society, cultural environment that personality is developed, know the generally acknowledged manner of this society.Generally speaking the factor influencing human communication and interpersonal relationships, the factor influencing human communication and interpersonal relationships has several following respects: ( 1) Culture background. Mainly include the languages of the contacts, language purpose difference, the attitude difference of associating, and accept education degree, cutural dynamics and horizontal difference of civilization,etc.. These factors can cause the contacts obstacle. The foreign country immigrants with obstructed language are unable to have a large circle of friends in the new environment quickly, it is a in this respect obvious example. ( 2) Social background. Mainly include respects such as social status, social role, personal identity and age, gender,etc.. Mr. Lu Xun pointed out that year, cinder old woman was sad that the oil magnate of U.S.A. did ever knew China collected, Jiao Da of office Jia will never fall in love with younger sister Lin. Therefore, with a wide gap social difference, must influence the person-to-person contacts. ( 3) Concept. Mainly include both sides in cognition, mood, manner and personality characteristics,etc.. Particularly, regular thinking tendency, view idea, mood state, makings, personality, interest, values, conduct, ability and angle,etc. looking at problem of both sides, can that influence associates depth and level each other. The research about the interpersonal attraction shows, associate both sides are close in the space, analogy in such aspects as personality characteristics and attitude, in factors such as complementarity and outstanding ability and instrument of respect of and expectsing etc.,etc., can all promote mutual attractiveness.Popular personality characteristics others are glad to accept to combine with the person of its contacts, called on psychology " The relations with people " . Showing according to research of foreign countries, the popular person generally possesses the characteristics of the following: It is heavy expressing to listen, respect others' personal secrets, not too modest, dare to admit and apologize candidly while making mistakes, look for excuse for one's own improper act, have one's labour rewarded someone else while being excessive non-, cherish oneself and others' time.The personality characteristics that the non- popular personality characteristics hinders the interpersonal attraction is mainly as follows, do not respect others and regard oneself as the centre, too utility, overly rely on, and it is strong and feeling self-humiliation, going to extremes, shrinking back, introversive and unsocial, hostile, etc to envy the heart.The skills and artistic human communications of human communication and communication are not merely a piece of knowledge, and a kind of art, only combine science and artistry together, could improve the results of the contacts, could improve the interpersonal relationships. This knowledge includes norm, etiquette, custom, habit that the human communication must follow, include skill that communicate and talk art,etc. also, for example interpersonal call take appropriate, pay a visit, take courteous, joyous festival want, give one's regard, talk attitude take sincere, joke and humour should handle appropriately etc.. In addition, good contacts attitude and psychological preparation are very important.Then, look from psychological angle, how should a solar month of 30 days improve the interpersonal relationships? The answer is four sentences: First, " treat oneself as others " (Namely treat one's own gain and loss honor or disgrace with usual mind, regard as one's own gain and loss honor or disgrace and take place on others, but interpersonal relationships of influence) because of the change of one's own mood ; Second, " treat others as oneself " (see things as one would if he were in someone else's place, exchange through role only alone, could go urgent urgent aching aching others' a others' one understanding) ; Third, " treat others as others " (Namely respect others, does not interfere the personal secrets of the other side, make sure to keep inside information from outsiders, Males and females should be treated differently, personal space not offending the other side) ; Fourth, " whether regard as oneself " (This means setting up self-respect and self-confident on the basis of self-awareness, maximize favourable factors and minimize unfavourable ones, get along with others more ripely) .The wise point out, it is difficult that make a comprehensive study and a thorough master of the above-mentioned four sentences, but only do intentionally, do the best to do, will have a continued development.
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